There Is A Woman At The Beginning Of All Great Things

If you have a young woman in your life that you would like to support in feeling more confident and in her power, please connect with the community  here . We'll get you started with 16 Positive Affirmations that you may begin using in your daughter's daily life. 

If you have a young woman in your life that you would like to support in feeling more confident and in her power, please connect with the community here. We'll get you started with 16 Positive Affirmations that you may begin using in your daughter's daily life. 

I was recently asked to bring the Be-YOU-tiful YOU project to the young mother's program at the New York Foundling in Staten Island, NY.  These magical young ladies and I were discussing what it means to be beautiful and one of the young moms made a negative remark about being a mother.  

She didn't feel like being a teenage mom made her beautiful.  

Ahhhh, to the contrary my dear.  While becoming a mother so young comes with extreme challenges and for obvious reasons is not advocated for, the role of being a mother is nothing short of miraculous.  I explained to this budding goddess that therein lies the power of being a woman.  Only every single human being on the planet must come through a woman.  

She is the bridge between worlds.

And while our young daughters today are being pulled in many different directions, too often we frown upon them - whatever they choose.  Be it abstinence, abortion, or the world of a teen mom - there will always be someone making them wrong about their choices.  

Perhaps if we empowered these girls with the knowledge that they are a beautiful force of nature, they would be better equipped to navigate life and make decisions best for themselves, not others.  Our daughters could then find themselves in the position of living a life they intentionally created, as opposed to living a life they feel has been handed to them or just happened to them due to circumstance.  

It is time we start asking ourselves why we spend so much time tearing each other down when we should be lifting each other up.  

Let's love our daughters from the beginning and in turn, love yourself in the process. Let's teach them the magic of who they are and not to be ashamed of what it means to be a woman and everything that comes with it.

I'm raising a teenage daughter myself and it's so interesting to me - now that I know my worth - how even the topic of a monthly moon cycle can stir up such embarrassment when in reality this ties in to the ability to not only create life but to house it, nurture it and bring it to light.  To be a woman is synonymous with creation. Envision a world where each young girl grows up with this knowing.  Do you think the world would be a better place?  I know it will.  It is.  

It is happening and it all begins with YOU.  

Until We Meet Again!

I have been on a bit of a social media/technology break for a little while now and it has been wonderful.  Every so often it is a good idea to disconnect, go within, reflect, and tune back into the simplicity of life.  I have been surrounded by many stories of illness and death recently, some pretty close to home, and it's always a stark reminder of the impermanence that is life. There is nothing more universal than the fact that we are all born and we will all die yet regardless of this, death seems to take us all by surprise. As I remember the loss of my very special super Mario, seven years ago today, I am filled with gratitude.  I am blessed to have had such a special person in my life – a man who was not only my cousin, my brother, but also a treasured friend.  I am grateful that I was able to be with him until he made his way to a new world and while my heart misses him so dearly, I find comfort in the ways he reminds me that he is always with me. Mario said something to me during his illness that has stuck with me since. Of all the things he missed, he missed the little ones.  He very much wanted back the routine of simply getting up and having a job to go to.  He missed having a reason to get dressed and ready in the morning.  So as I think about him and honor him on his 42nd birthday I do so by loving a little more, everyone around me and remembering life is a gift, and a short one at that.  And when I find myself frustrated by that early morning alarm or those arduous and monotonous tasks I will remember that too is a blessing.  

Photo:  Grand Ferry Park - Williamsburg, Brooklyn, New York

Messages From The Bronx

“Create.”  That is the word that was written across the mural I happened to park my car next to on Wednesday.  A school I have been to on several occasions however every other time except this day I missed this block long masterpiece!  It reminded me that creation is all that we are and what we see depends entirely on the angle from which we view.  I create.  My thoughts create, my heart creates, my hands create, my voice creates!  Our lives are literally art and we get to decide the modality in which we share our work and despite what you have been told, each moment the canvas can be blank and you may begin again.  We have a lot more control over our lives than we believe.  We control what we think and we are in charge of our actions when we react to every single moment life presents to us.  In fact, you can also create the things and situations that are most pleasing to you by focusing on your desires rather than giving your energy to any current unpleasant circumstances that you may be dealing with.  So what will you choose?  Will you choose to expend your energy fighting your current reality or does dancing with your dreams sound much more enticing?  I know what I want to do.

Photo:  Grand Concourse @ East 166th Street - Bronx, New York