There Is A Woman At The Beginning Of All Great Things

If you have a young woman in your life that you would like to support in feeling more confident and in her power, please connect with the community  here . We'll get you started with 16 Positive Affirmations that you may begin using in your daughter's daily life. 

If you have a young woman in your life that you would like to support in feeling more confident and in her power, please connect with the community here. We'll get you started with 16 Positive Affirmations that you may begin using in your daughter's daily life. 

I was recently asked to bring the Be-YOU-tiful YOU project to the young mother's program at the New York Foundling in Staten Island, NY.  These magical young ladies and I were discussing what it means to be beautiful and one of the young moms made a negative remark about being a mother.  

She didn't feel like being a teenage mom made her beautiful.  

Ahhhh, to the contrary my dear.  While becoming a mother so young comes with extreme challenges and for obvious reasons is not advocated for, the role of being a mother is nothing short of miraculous.  I explained to this budding goddess that therein lies the power of being a woman.  Only every single human being on the planet must come through a woman.  

She is the bridge between worlds.

And while our young daughters today are being pulled in many different directions, too often we frown upon them - whatever they choose.  Be it abstinence, abortion, or the world of a teen mom - there will always be someone making them wrong about their choices.  

Perhaps if we empowered these girls with the knowledge that they are a beautiful force of nature, they would be better equipped to navigate life and make decisions best for themselves, not others.  Our daughters could then find themselves in the position of living a life they intentionally created, as opposed to living a life they feel has been handed to them or just happened to them due to circumstance.  

It is time we start asking ourselves why we spend so much time tearing each other down when we should be lifting each other up.  

Let's love our daughters from the beginning and in turn, love yourself in the process. Let's teach them the magic of who they are and not to be ashamed of what it means to be a woman and everything that comes with it.

I'm raising a teenage daughter myself and it's so interesting to me - now that I know my worth - how even the topic of a monthly moon cycle can stir up such embarrassment when in reality this ties in to the ability to not only create life but to house it, nurture it and bring it to light.  To be a woman is synonymous with creation. Envision a world where each young girl grows up with this knowing.  Do you think the world would be a better place?  I know it will.  It is.  

It is happening and it all begins with YOU.  

For You, Not To You

Get your sheet of printable positive affirmations  here.  

Get your sheet of printable positive affirmations here. 

Have you ever thought about how life would show up differently if you believed everything was happening for you and not to you?  What if you truly believed the world was rigged in your favor? 

Well I for one, know that it is. 

Human suffering occurs when we want something to be different from what it actually is. But what if we made like mamma nature and just went with the flow?  Make like a cloud and float along, care free? How can we learn from the flowing river and the breeze rustling through the trees? I believe there is a message in the way the planets never seem to worry about just how they are floating through outer space.

So why then, do we put so much emphasis on the smallest of nuances that seem to go wrong in our daily lives?  Why do we micromanage our time to the last second?  A beautiful teacher of mine recently challenged me to add a second column to my to-do list.  It is here that she said I should place the items that I am leaving up to God or the Universe – whatever name you give to the idea of a greater intelligence – and it has really done wonders in my life, and in the amount of work I force myself to do. 

Create the possibility that you can do LESS and accomplish MORE.

What if we took the path of least resistance and worked with what is working?  What if we trusted that we are always supported, and just as the way winter does not worry that spring will come again, nor should you worry about circumstances that seem hopeless.  Imagine a young child experiencing a long frost for the first time.  At first glance it might appear as though the landscape is lifeless but just as our earth goes through cycles, so do we, and some of the most beautiful blossoms emerge from the darkest of periods.

Remember that you are that magic and flow which is life - and the moment you begin focusing on that, the more you will realize just how life has always been working FOR you. 

Start with consciously choosing to repeat positive affirmations to yourself daily. For your own sheet of 16 printable, positive affirmations geared towards teenage girls, click here. 

Rise Up: A Call To Action For Girls Everywhere

BECAUSE CONFIDENCE CHANGES EVERYTHING. GET YOUR FREE GUIDE TO EMPOWER YOUR DAUGHTER  HERE. 

BECAUSE CONFIDENCE CHANGES EVERYTHING. GET YOUR FREE GUIDE TO EMPOWER YOUR DAUGHTER HERE. 

Growing up may seem challenging. It can sometimes feel like uniqueness is not something to be celebrated. That for some reason not making waves and blending in with everyone else is the way to go.

I saw this with my own daughter, who is now 13.  When she was little and just beginning school, it was every girl in class invited to the party. There was nothing but love between these budding Goddesses. As they grew older, the circle split into smaller ones and some inevitably began to feel left out.

There is a sense of comfort in this idea of "fitting in" but the truth is that is not real.  

There is nothing we fit into.  Sure, it's wonderful when we can share similar interests and life experiences. I certainly made friends this way when I was younger and still do today - but there is an underlying culture of calling people out who are somewhat "different."  There is an undeniable mean girl undercurrent among girls and even more so among their moms. 

It is time to rise up and return to our sisterhood.  We must lead by example and lift up our fellow sisters and teach our daughters to do the same.  When we empower and support one another we realize that there is no scarcity of any thing at all.  There is enough abundance in the world, in our communities, and within our social circles for everyone to have more than what they need.  The desire to compete falls away. 

We find that when we heal others, we heal ourselves, as our reflection lives in all.  Let us celebrate our differences and bask in our unity that runs deep.   Let us understand that there is so much more to learn from those who appear different than us as they afford us a new and unique way in which to see the world.  

When we remain open hearted to our sisters, we clearly see the paradox in that however we try to define ourselves and separate ourselves, deep down we are all the same.  We have the same hopes and fears and beneath the facade, we all want the same things. So let's celebrate each other and our differences, and love each other in our oneness.  

Let's rise above divisions that society has created and form a new paradigm for a global sisterhood.  

Do you have a young woman in your life? download our free guide for tips to empower your daughter to feel more confident. 

LFMD 30 Days Of Gratitude Challenge!

Today is the day!  Day 1 of the #lfmd30daysofgratitude challenge.  Tune in by following me on Instagram @lessonsformydaughters or like us on Facebook @sessonsformydaughtersllc!  I am grateful for my body.  Yes!  How often do we take for granted this beautiful form that houses our soul and allows us to experience this world through all our senses?  Take a moment to thank your skin, your hair, your heart, your lungs, the blood that flows through you, the energy that is life, all of it!  I am so thankful to be Carmin in this life.  To love her and experience life as her, and she can be anyone she wants!  How beautiful is that?!  What are you thankful for today?

Spring Has Sprung 2016 Style!

I have been hearing so much excitement from everyone around me lately; 2016 is starting off in such a powerful way!  New business ventures, huge shifts in career paths, big moves, different cities, travel plans, focused visions, and a shedding of everything that had once been a barrier turned into dreams manifest!  

As we celebrate the spring equinox in the northern hemisphere, mother nature reminds us that after the darkness comes the light ... always. It is a beautiful reflection of the cycles that we too experience, showing us that it is quite alright to spend a period in shadow and reflection only to spring forth into a web of renewal, bold color, and abundance galore.  The beauty of this life is the we are not limited to who we have become, rather we are fluid, ever-changing, and free to take a new path whenever we choose and indeed the roads are endless!

I too have been slightly dormant and planting big dreams of my own and I am so excited to share with you that Lessons For My Daughters is coming to a college campus near you, Spring 2016!  I am debuting two new workshops; one is called Project Happiness for children and another on the topic of self-development for adults through the continuing education program at Kingsborough Community College in Brooklyn, New York.

It truly is a gift to know what your purpose in life is, but it is quite another blessing when those around you see the value in your vision as well and support you in bringing your ideas to life.  A big thank you to Ms. Karolina Rasa, Director of Continuing Education programs at KBCC for allowing me to serve as a faculty member this spring!  Looking forward to seeing where this road leads!  If you want more information feel free to contact me or check out www.kbcc.cuny.edu/continuinged for details.

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