Do You Ever Wonder What The Whole Purpose Is?

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Do you ever wonder what the whole purpose is? Do you ever think maybe there's a lot more than meets the eye? What if we are ALL the universal source split into 7 billion people who have forgotten that we are all ONE?  What if when enough people remember, this reality ends, and boom we ascend to the next level? What if it really is all just a game?  What if we are meant to play with creation?  

If it sounds crazy, remember all things are said to be impossible until they're done.

When you think about it, almost every single thing that we consider reality is so because enough people agreed on it.  It's an agreed reality.  Are your views really your own, or do they come from somewhere else?  For example, on a large scale, we agreed on these imaginary lines and borders that don't actually exist in any real sense.  They're not there - yet we have caused widespread destruction in defense of them. 

We agreed that one race is superior to another and then act accordingly.

Even if this is not your individual belief, it is one of the collective and it gets played out over and over until we decide to say stop.  We agreed that certain things are illegal while others are not. When I studied educational law, it was made very clear that the law doesn't really exist until someone chooses to enforce it.  You see this all the time when different people engage in the same behavior: one is faced with consequences as a direct result of their actions and the other is not.  On a smaller level we agree on what's cool and in style and in fashion, what's unacceptable or acceptable, what's "weird", and what the "norm" is. 

Things are as they are because enough people agreed on it.

Here in lies the ultimate power. If reality is agreed-upon then we can change our minds, agree to something that benefits the whole, and in turn create a new reality.  We just have to wake up and remember that we're on the same team and that Earth is the mothership. If we destroy her and we destroy each other then we have no chance.  I don't believe that is our fate.  There is so much good in the world but that doesn't make the 6 o'clock news. 

But if it seems as though things are falling apart, maybe it's because better things are coming together. You can't build upon an unsteady foundation.  Tear down what's not working and rebuild from the ground up.  

Let's dream up a new world together! Leave your thoughts below.

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There Is A Woman At The Beginning Of All Great Things

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If you have a young woman in your life that you would like to support in feeling more confident and in her power, please connect with the community here. We'll get you started with 16 Positive Affirmations that you may begin using in your daughter's daily life. 

I was recently asked to bring the Be-YOU-tiful YOU project to the young mother's program at the New York Foundling in Staten Island, NY.  These magical young ladies and I were discussing what it means to be beautiful and one of the young moms made a negative remark about being a mother.  

She didn't feel like being a teenage mom made her beautiful.  

Ahhhh, to the contrary my dear.  While becoming a mother so young comes with extreme challenges and for obvious reasons is not advocated for, the role of being a mother is nothing short of miraculous.  I explained to this budding goddess that therein lies the power of being a woman.  Only every single human being on the planet must come through a woman.  

She is the bridge between worlds.

And while our young daughters today are being pulled in many different directions, too often we frown upon them - whatever they choose.  Be it abstinence, abortion, or the world of a teen mom - there will always be someone making them wrong about their choices.  

Perhaps if we empowered these girls with the knowledge that they are a beautiful force of nature, they would be better equipped to navigate life and make decisions best for themselves, not others.  Our daughters could then find themselves in the position of living a life they intentionally created, as opposed to living a life they feel has been handed to them or just happened to them due to circumstance.  

It is time we start asking ourselves why we spend so much time tearing each other down when we should be lifting each other up.  

Let's love our daughters from the beginning and in turn, love yourself in the process. Let's teach them the magic of who they are and not to be ashamed of what it means to be a woman and everything that comes with it.

I'm raising a teenage daughter myself and it's so interesting to me - now that I know my worth - how even the topic of a monthly moon cycle can stir up such embarrassment when in reality this ties in to the ability to not only create life but to house it, nurture it and bring it to light.  To be a woman is synonymous with creation. Envision a world where each young girl grows up with this knowing.  Do you think the world would be a better place?  I know it will.  It is.  

It is happening and it all begins with YOU.  

For You, Not To You

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Get your sheet of printable positive affirmations here. 

Have you ever thought about how life would show up differently if you believed everything was happening for you and not to you?  What if you truly believed the world was rigged in your favor? 

Well I for one, know that it is. 

Human suffering occurs when we want something to be different from what it actually is. But what if we made like mamma nature and just went with the flow?  Make like a cloud and float along, care free? How can we learn from the flowing river and the breeze rustling through the trees? I believe there is a message in the way the planets never seem to worry about just how they are floating through outer space.

So why then, do we put so much emphasis on the smallest of nuances that seem to go wrong in our daily lives?  Why do we micromanage our time to the last second?  A beautiful teacher of mine recently challenged me to add a second column to my to-do list.  It is here that she said I should place the items that I am leaving up to God or the Universe – whatever name you give to the idea of a greater intelligence – and it has really done wonders in my life, and in the amount of work I force myself to do. 

Create the possibility that you can do LESS and accomplish MORE.

What if we took the path of least resistance and worked with what is working?  What if we trusted that we are always supported, and just as the way winter does not worry that spring will come again, nor should you worry about circumstances that seem hopeless.  Imagine a young child experiencing a long frost for the first time.  At first glance it might appear as though the landscape is lifeless but just as our earth goes through cycles, so do we, and some of the most beautiful blossoms emerge from the darkest of periods.

Remember that you are that magic and flow which is life - and the moment you begin focusing on that, the more you will realize just how life has always been working FOR you. 

Start with consciously choosing to repeat positive affirmations to yourself daily. For your own sheet of 16 printable, positive affirmations geared towards teenage girls, click here. 

Mindfulness Grows in Brooklyn

Lessons For My Daughters was originally intended as an empowerment workshop for young women and girls, but when I was approached by my fellow colleauge and long time friend to host a professional development workshop on the topic of social emotional growth I could not pass on the opportunity.  Lori McLoughlin, fellow speech-language pathologist and Brooklyn College alumni is a supervisor for School District 22 in Brooklyn within the New York City Deparment of Education. Overseeing over 85 speech teachers,  it was truly an honor to be invited to host the event.  It is a blessing every day to be able to reach our future through the children I engage with and this was a wonderful way for me to have an even greater influence.  To speak to a group of educators was a new experience for me that proved to be valuable to both myself and the audience.  I received such positive feedback from teachers and administration alike.  

For a few hours we put ourselves in the position of our students.  At times we need to be reminded that there is no separation between educator and child, we are all human on a journey, and learning always occurs both ways.  It is also good to remember that life does not exist in a bubble.  The children we service have lives outside of school that they bring with them each time they step into our therapy sessions.  Be relatable and share.  As speech language-pathologists, we have the unique opportunity to connect with our students in a more intimate way due to the small student to teacher ratio.  

Throughout the day we learned to recognize how conflicts and obstacles can be easily resolved simply by focusing on what actually happened as separate from the ideas we create about these situations that are often times entirely made up!  The importance of realizing our feelings are our own and therefore controlled by you, put teachers in a state of empowerment that they will gladly pass on to their students.  Staying present and being mindful are also great strategies we discussed to bring awareness and attention to what is occuring in the now moment, allowing our students to have an increased focus on the task at hand.  Wrapping the afternoon up with a meditation leading us all through a lush autumn forest allowed for an energized and peaceful way to continue on with the rest of the day.

 We all have the power to affect change, in fact you do so every day but it is how and what you change that is up to you!

Photo:  Andries Hudde Junior High School - Brooklyn, New York

Messages From The Bronx

“Create.”  That is the word that was written across the mural I happened to park my car next to on Wednesday.  A school I have been to on several occasions however every other time except this day I missed this block long masterpiece!  It reminded me that creation is all that we are and what we see depends entirely on the angle from which we view.  I create.  My thoughts create, my heart creates, my hands create, my voice creates!  Our lives are literally art and we get to decide the modality in which we share our work and despite what you have been told, each moment the canvas can be blank and you may begin again.  We have a lot more control over our lives than we believe.  We control what we think and we are in charge of our actions when we react to every single moment life presents to us.  In fact, you can also create the things and situations that are most pleasing to you by focusing on your desires rather than giving your energy to any current unpleasant circumstances that you may be dealing with.  So what will you choose?  Will you choose to expend your energy fighting your current reality or does dancing with your dreams sound much more enticing?  I know what I want to do.

Photo:  Grand Concourse @ East 166th Street - Bronx, New York

Magic Happens at CTEA

Have you ever had an experience where you knew you had just completely altered the course of your life? Today is that day for me. Lessons For My Daughters was truly birthed into existence today. This is a picture of the front entrance to the High School for Construction Trades, Engineering and Architecture.  Life brought me to these doors just a few short years ago on what was one of the most devastating days of my life but what turned out to be a blessing (as it often happens) and a huge beginning of spiritual growth for me. Something inside myself forced me to show up to what was supposed to be the first day of a new job even though I felt incapable of functioning. Well it turns out it was so much more than a temporary position to cover a speech caseload. I was met with so much compassion by a woman, the Assistant Principal of Special Education; Ms. Kathryne Stahl, who has always seemed to see so much in me.  She was a blessing that day and all the days after, that I worked with her students just outside her office. She was a blessing when she supported my unschooling journey and my desire to move to the west coast. She was a blessing when she agreed to mentor me and provide me with an internship so I could complete my certificate in Educational Administration (even though I chose not to take that road) and she was a blessing when she said YES again to another one of my dreams.

I was able to speak to the most amazing group of beautiful and inspiring young girls at her high school today because she said YES to the Be-YOU-tiful YOU project and I cannot even put into words what that meant for me. To be able to connect with these young women today ... wow!  It was such bliss to see the resonance in their eyes while listening to my words. Today is such an epic day in my life and for Lessons For My Daughters.  One of the most beautiful compliments I received after my talk was from a young girl who told me that she loved that I was 'so open.'  For me, it seems like I have taken a long road to have reached the point of being able to live authentically and to speak MY truth, from my heart and to have gotten that validation from these young women today is truly a testament to what I aspire to be for them.  A living example of an empowered, self-confident woman ... a reflection of their own greatness.  I may not have had the benefit of many strong, female influences in my life but I intend to be one, for my daughters and for daughters everywhere.